When it comes to seduction, each place on the globe has its own rules. In France, a Latin country par excellence, seduction is almost an art of living. Thus, it is not uncommon to see men take the first step in the street, or in places where it is generally not easy to approach. But this is far from being the case everywhere in the world. In the United States, a country where Dating is king, you can be described as savage if you approach a woman too abruptly. As a European, a country where romance and love are king, I was deeply disturbed by this type of encounter.

Yet the goal remains the same, to find your soul mate! But the USA remains the country of paradoxes, particularly when it comes to romantic encounters, it's all or nothing! We want the other to fall in love at first sight without taking the lead properly.

To better understand this notion of Dating, I wanted to guide you in this article. I am not claiming that the codes of seduction are better in France, but rather I wanted to warn you that French dating takes the good sides of US dating but still retains a part of naturalness, which in reality adds charm to any encounter.

DATING TRANSLATION AND DEFINITION!

Romantic dating in the USA can be defined around the keyword “ Dating ”. Whether you're 20 or 60, whether it's your first romantic encounter or you're rebuilding your life for the fifth time, this is the box every single person has to go through. What I mean by that is that every person, regardless of their age, their social condition, their origin must put themselves in a Dating position to find love in the USA. Otherwise, it will be difficult to find a serious relationship.

Yes, if you're just looking for a one-night stand you don't necessarily need to go through this step. But to embark on a serious story, it's almost imperative. Because for demanding singles the attractive world site, despite what its name indicates, does not exist in the United States. And anyway because you can find love on the internet but in reality you will have to see each other for the first time! And this is precisely where we begin the process with our “ first date ”!

I imagine that you have understood, dating is the name given to the period of seduction in the USA. This therefore has a very specific name and there are rules to respect depending on the person in front of us. It is therefore difficult to give a precise definition of dating in French because depending on the geographical location, the age of the person you are going to meet, and multiple other criteria, dating will take a certain form.

However, there are some well-established rules that I wanted to share with you. Indeed, rather than wondering what dating means, to obtain a precise definition, it is preferable to understand how a meeting is organized and in what state of mind a person who asks themselves will find love.

HOW DOES DATING WORK?

You should know that dating is more of a social encounter than a real romantic encounter, this Wikipedia article explains it well. This is particularly why many people who go on a date subsequently become friends. Yes, the risk of falling into the friendzone is never far away!

In the USA, the rules are the rules and they have a much greater scope than in France. When you want to find love, you have to accept that it is much more codified, and it is impossible to change the rules! So for gentlemen, you might as well leave sexual urges aside, nothing happens (in general) right after the date!

But that doesn't mean that a sex plan isn't on the cards. This is sometimes the case, but before getting there, there are very specific steps. And you can have several dates with the same person or “date” several women (or men) at the same time without it causing problems and causing jealousy.

More specifically, the meeting is organized and it is often the woman who decides the location and dinner in a restaurant is imperative. Besides, it's generally a fairly chic restaurant where the bill is steep! It's a first test... Everything is quite overplayed and there is little room for naturalness. Exactly like during a 5-minute speed dating, we discover the other through rational questions such as level of study, life plans, and remuneration. Except that there it can last more than an hour (the time of a meal). The majority of questions revolve around money. And it’s the man who has to sort everything out… Not bad girls eh but quite endearing in the end…

I am aware that as a French person, you must say to yourself that I am exaggerating. Myself, if someone had told me that it would happen like this, I wouldn't have believed it! But when I was faced for the first time with a date with a woman in the USA and I tried dating, I can guarantee you that I was surprised. On the big day, I had a woman in front of me who asked me questions about my life. But not the type of questions you ask to get to know someone else, at least not the ones I was used to hearing. For me who had dozens of topics of conversation with a girl in mind, I was stunned...

She gave me the final blow when she asked me if I had good health insurance and if I went to the dentist regularly! I might as well tell you that although she is a femme fatale, I got up and left… It is another world! For you, it would be a big mistake with a man on a first meeting. For her and everyone else, this is a trivial question.

WHAT ARE THE NEGATIVE ASPECTS OF DATING

When I tell this anecdote, people tell me that it is perfectly normal that there are still millions of single people at 30! Once the dating period is over, there are 4 options: either stop contact, become friends, become sex friends, or declare yourself a couple. But apart from the boat questions, there is no real phase where we learn about the other, where we realize their character, their dreams, and what they could bring to us, besides the financial aspect. Everything is superficial in reality.

The idea of Dating is that everything is organized, no room for a little madness in the meetings. It’s very either a restaurant or a bar. Honestly, how do you want to find love when there are so many stereotypes, rules to follow, and codes to respect? How to express your personality to seduce while remaining yourself?

In my opinion, seduction is a stage that should be experienced with pleasure. You should not see it as a constraint or even worse as a codified period where each step is defined in advance.

“Dating” is simply the opposite of what goals should be and that is why I want you to avoid falling into this trap. You must impose your own rules, so that you can fully experience this process of seduction with a smile, with a positive attitude, and better confidence in your qualities.

As I explain in my book The Code of Love, if you want to experience a story “110%” as I call it, that is to say with complicity, laughter, sharing and a connection never before known until now know that it is essential to bring out your personality. This is how you find the right person. To discover my work and the principles of natural seduction, simply click here: I want to know more about natural seduction and The Code of Love.

WHAT ARE THE GOOD SIDES OF DATING?

Indeed, this also allows certain men to offer another framework and above all to implement seduction techniques. This is what allows you to stand out from the crowd and make your target succumb because you will increase the attraction and attraction tenfold. It is also thanks to these imposed rules that the concept of Alpha Male was born!

Thus, the best seduction techniques were born in the United States. I am referring, for example, to eye contact, Kino, or the mirroring technique. Only Anglo-Saxon-sounding names!

Furthermore, it is clear that in France everything is not perfect. There are flaws during a first romantic date because many of the women and men I support realize the same mistake: that of looking for absolute love! Now there is no longer any room to take the time to get to know each other and to charm each other... All the steps are skipped to go from "Let's meet" to "Are we a couple now?" ".

It is not by going from “hello” to “we are building a story” in the space of a few days that you will be able to count on each other, create a solid story, and above all obtain a beneficial exchange that will make you grow, move forward and establish long-term projects.

HOW CAN WE IMPROVE THE DATING PROCESS?

My goal is nothing more and nothing less than to open your eyes to the need to live in the present moment and to take seduction as a means of building strong intimacy based on complicity. This will allow you to study the person you have in front of you to have an excellent time together (instead of asking simple or boring questions), to hang out around unique or rare activities, and ultimately, to build a beginning of a story where you both have the same vision. The aim is to move forward slowly but with constant progress, without breaking with your daily life, and without throwing yourself body and soul into a situation that will remain fragile and risk leading to a “ false start ”.

If you continue to meet men or women following the stereotypes of the restaurant as a first date, sex without commitment, and selection criteria before the search for true complicity, how do you want to find true love? You all have something different, something unique that needs to be highlighted to be sure to make the right choice regarding your “ partner in crime ”.

I sincerely think it's time for you to change your cursor and behavior. Continue to use dating apps and dating sites but also open yourself to everyday socialization or seduction. Take the time to fundamentally change your habits so that each encounter brings you happiness and well-being until you form a bond that will be so strong that you will have met the RIGHT person or you will be that right person! In conclusion, when we look at the period of “Dating” in the USA, we wonder where the romance, the seduction, the desire to break the codes and create that little extra that will make you different is.

These are all these notions that I wish to bring to you with my work to help you take charge of your romantic future by leaving behind the rules, the stereotypical game of seduction, or magical promises. Don't wonder what to say to a girl, stand out from the crowd! Indeed, I can guarantee you today after more than 10 years of supporting thousands of men and women in their love lives that love has no miracle recipe. It's all about chemistry and communication. Therefore stand out from the crowd, forget the rules of Dating or a first date, and show your personality. This is how you will be happy in love!