How To Be a Gentleman On The First Date

In the current society, advice on how a man should behave on the first date can run short of elegance.
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In the current society, advice on how a man should behave on the first date can run short of elegance. The question still stands though, how can a man be the perfect gentleman on the first date? Let us discuss some practical tips that men can use to be the perfect gentleman for their date.

Before we discuss how to be a gentleman, we need to understand what a gentleman is. A lot of us are not accustomed to elegance. However, a lot of olden television dramas depict a perfect dramatization of how gentlemen used to behave especially around during the Victorian times. It was a norm for men to bow before entering a room, take off their hat and have warm conversations with people they meet.

However, the concept of "gentlemen" has been romanticized in the world of love and dating. Going on a first date with someone sets the tone for whether or not you can have more dates and how successful they will be. So, even though we are way past the Vistorian era, there are some practical ways and gestures that can allow you to be a gentleman in this day and age.

Firstly, it is a fact that when people do not know us the first thing they use to judge us is our appearance. Therefore, it is important to put an effort in how you look. Ofcourse this will also be greatly informed by the establishment you will be going to for your first date. If you decide on a quick coffee or ice cream date, then casual clothes are most likely befitting. If it is dinner, then formal or semi-formal clothes will make sense. You can try to look up some ideal outfits online if you need some inspiration. Whatever you do, put your best foot forward.

Picking the right place for your date is important. Make sure that you pick a date that complements your partner. This means that you need to ask and get to know their interests and hobbies. Use this information to look for activities that are centered around their interests and hobbies. This will show them that you were listening to them and that you take them seriously. If they like animals, a trip to the zoo would be lovely. Ensuring that you plan a date that they will personally enjoy will show that you have put effort in making them happy, and that is what a gentleman does.

First impressions matter the most, so whatever you do, make sure you are punctual. You have to arrive before your partner. This will give you some free time in case unpredictable things happen. Being a gentleman also entails ensuring that your partner does not struggle to find you when they arrive. You can have a flower by your table, which will make you stand out for your partner to easily notice you. Nothing is as uncomfortable and embarrassing as approaching a random stranger thinking they are your date when they are actually not.

When it comes to food, do make sure that you know what you want to eat. You can try downloading the restaurant menu or looking it up online beforehand. A man who knows what they want without hesitating is sexy. Know your way around the menu well beforehand. Make sure to order food that is easy to eat. This will give you less pressure and allow you to engage in a flowing conversation with your date.

In your conversation, be mindful of your tone. Be respectful and kind to your date. Allow them to express themselves without interjecting. Do not focus on talking about yourself, give your date the platform to tell you more about themselves. Be polite and have good manners. Do not overwhelm your date by trying to touch their hand or display any physical affection. Relax, it is only the first date. Unless they extend their hand, do not put pressure on them.

Even though settling the bill can be done by either of the couple, being a true gentleman who wants a traditional relationship includes covering the bill after the date. Do not embarrass your date by asking to go 50/50, even when she insists, regardless of how the date went. This will set the tone for the possible relationship dynamics you will have, therefore, be the best you there is.

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