Have you experienced talking to your loved one about a topic you have different perspectives on? Such conversations can be awkward and make you feel a bit uneasy. This is the same when it comes to talking about what you believe. Having different religions can cause a lot of misunderstandings and unhappiness if things are not handled in a humble and a welcoming way.
Research has shown that more and more religious groups now exist compared to the ‘90s. There are more adults who have chosen to be non-affiliated or atheist and they seem to be growing each year. Differences in beliefs when it comes to religion or spirituality have the ability to negatively affect romantic relationships. This becomes more tricky because these belief systems go beyond just weekend revering, important decisions when it comes to parenting, finances and who you befriend also get affected.
Couples who share the same religion do not always agree on every religious practice or how it should be carried out. They can simply not agree on how many times they should get involved in religious activities. Therefore, it is very important for every couple to realize the dangers and possible areas where being involved in a relationship with someone who has a different religion or belief or when one of the partners decide to suddenly leave the shared religion. There are a lot of relationships of people who have different belief systems that are healthy and successful even when they do not believe the same things.
Firstly both partners need to understand that knowing which religion or belief one follows and how they choose to practice their religion is not always the same. It is essential that each one really researches and has a clear understanding of what they believe and what it means to them personally. Having a clear understanding of who you are and what you stand for will help you be able to communicate this well to your partner. In understanding yourself better, you can start by knowing how you got to be in your religion, was it through your family or yourself? Know what gives you joy and what comforts you. Know what are the major tenets of your beliefs that you practice dearly and which ones you are willing to negotiate.
You need to know how your beliefs differ from one another and discuss how you will navigate these. Realizing where there are differences is essential in understanding how these will impact your relationship. Evading addressing and discussing these issues will not solve anything, and you can only put them off for so long. You need to openly discuss the things that can be stumbling blocks and come up with practical solutions together. Be careful not to sound as if you are trying to convince your partner to change their beliefs and follow yours. Hold these conversations showing interest and yearning to really understand your partner better.
Remember, how the conversation is started can determine how successful it becomes and how your partner receives it. Therefore, you should pay careful attention to the words you choose to use and your tone. Using positive words and personalizing what you are saying by using “I” in your statements allows your partners to positively receive your message and be willing to engage in a constructive conversation with you.
Retelling your personal experiences is an amazing practical way that you can use for both you and your partner to understand each other better. These will help you know more about how you practice your beliefs in an interesting way. It also lessens the chances of anyone being offended since it basically becomes about talking about what one went through instead of what they will never do. This cannot be misunderstood as intimidation.
It is helpful for the harmony in the relationship when both partners show interest in each other’s beliefs and practices. Dedicate some time aside to engage with them in their beliefs, whether it is through attending a service or practicing some activity with them. This will show that you care about them and accept who they are. Mistakes are bound to happen, make sure that you are both always ready to apologize and forgive each other. The goal should always be to understand what the problem is and how it can be fixed.
